Life Lessons of A Thirtysomething
I knew I was going to college, but I hadn’t made up my mind about a major. I was just happy to be finished with high school and I looked forward to being grown.
It was impossible for me to know what my life would be like in 20 years.
At 18, I didn’t know the man that would become my husband and I didn’t know the women that are now in my close circle, including my best friend.
I pictured myself graduating from college, moving to New York and doing… something.
I’ve learned a lot from experience since I was 18.
For instance, it is important to make good choices, but it is even more important to forgive myself when I make bad ones. I accept that I am where I am in life partly because of the choices I’ve made, and a lot because God is gracious.
This is one thing I try to get across to people, especially teenagers. You will make some good choices and some bad. Try not to make bad ones that are life-threatening. Try to always choose good. But, when you make a poor decision, forgive yourself and move on.
Another thing. Relationships don’t necessarily last forever. Sometimes people grow together and sometimes they grow apart. It doesn’t mean either are bad people, it just means that life happens. This is true of loves, friendships and professional relationships.
Also, life is forever changing. I know the euphoric feeling of holding my babies for the first time… and what it’s like to cry tears of joy at a friend’s wedding.
But I also know what it’s like to get a phone call with news so devastating the only way I could breathe is in a ball on the floor.
Oh yeah, it’s important to make life plans. But, be willing to modify them if God says so. Being open to his plan allowed me to go from being mostly career-driven to having two of the best titles ever – Mommy and Wife.
And God didn’t ask me to give up the career, he has blessed me with all three.
So, today as I celebrate I feel good. 18 was cool, but I wouldn’t change the wisdom that comes with 38 for anything.